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The Green Shoe Retreat is a trauma-informed mental health retreat in Oklahoma focused on healing the pain from childhood dysfunction in your family of origin. We work with individuals to raise awareness of how past unhealthy family roles and systems influence current behaviors and relationships.

Our 5-day retreat is based on Pia Mellody’s Post Induction Therapy (PIT), developed to help alleviate and heal the impacts of childhood relational trauma. These strategies were shaped through her work at The Meadows treatment center. Pia defines codependence as a disorder of immaturity caused by relational trauma, which continues to impact relationships today.

Retreat Focus

At our trauma-informed mental health retreat in Oklahoma, you will learn how childhood relational trauma has impacted your nervous system and how to live more emotionally regulated and present in your body. Many individuals have not learned to regulate themselves in ways that create a true sense of safety.

Through mindful awareness and the integration of present-moment experiences, we work to release current triggers connected to past trauma. The goal is not to relive the past, but to reset your nervous system—helping you respond to life with greater balance rather than overreacting or shutting down.

During your retreat week at the Green Shoe, we address five core issues that contribute to codependent patterns. These often show up as difficulty with self-esteem, setting healthy boundaries, owning and experiencing your reality, caring for your adult needs and wants, and expressing yourself in moderation.

By identifying these core issues, healing past wounds, and practicing new ways of living, recovery and emotional maturity become attainable.

  • Self Esteem

    It is the internal experience of one's preciousness in the face of one's humanity. Self-esteem comes from embracing the concept of inherent self-worth and applying it to oneself.

  • Boundaries

    Boundaries are a system of limit setting that helps protect a person from being a victim and contains a person so they are not offensive to others.

  • Reality

    Our reality is influenced by our history and our childhood trauma. You create your reality through what you think, how you feel, and how you choose to behave.

  • Dependency

    Dependency is becoming aware of your needs and wants, getting them met in healthy ways, and also being appropriately interdependent with others.

  • Moderation

    Moderation is about expressing our spontaneity in healthy ways. We are not being too contained or uncontained in our behaviors. Our boundaries help us practice our moderation.

If you are experiencing...

  • A life that lacks joy

  • ​​A life that is out of balance

  • Experienced childhood adverse events

  • ​Less than nurturing childhood

  • Current relationship struggles

  • Family members with mental health challenges

  • Family members with addiction challenges

  • Past or current personal addiction struggles

  • If you feel unmotivated, stuck in life

  • Your goals feel unobtainable

Expected Outcomes…

  • Self-compassion

  • Acknowledging the reality of our childhood experience

  • Resolving childhood shame and wounding
    Learn how to self-regulate

  • Practice tolerating intense emotions without acting out

  • Create healthy self-care

  • Living with balance, moderation, and maturity

  • Increased emotional stability

  • Greater insight into your patterns

  • Identify

    By identifying past dysfunctional or unhealthy family roles and patterns, you can move from “just surviving” to living abundantly. Your recovery is a process going forward and we are here to help you learn self-awareness, self-discovery, and embrace your inherent worth.

  • Process

    Participating in a Green Shoe Retreat is about understanding the impacts of your childhood experiences and connecting the patterns of relational dysfunction you see in your life today. You will explore in a safe and supportive environment the origins of self-defeating behaviors such as addictions, mood disorders, and troubling relationships.

  • Living

    According to Pia Mellody, recovery is not about changing who you are, but about letting go of who you are not. Life is not about being perfect, no one is perfect. It is about having the resources and tools for personal growth, transformational change, and realizing it is okay to be perfectly imperfect. That just means you are a part of humanity.

When are the retreats and what may I experience?

Retreats are held Monday through Friday, 8:00 am to 5:00 pm for adults 21 years of age and older. Each day you will receive intensive group therapy, learning how to connect to your emotions with awareness of your thoughts, practicing healthy boundaries, and learning how to identify and express healthy internal dialogue within the group process.

The primary focus of this workshop is identifying, processing, and releasing the unhealthy messages and painful emotions that were rooted in experiences from the past. This allows you the freedom to embody your authentic self.

Begin Your Healing Journey
Begin Your Healing Journey